“Until we can receive with an open heart, we're never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgement to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgement to giving help." - Brene Brown
I can be stubborn. Some might even say bull-headed. I am a Taurus, after all. I grew up in the age of Independent Women and Survivor (thanks, Destiny's Child). My gut reaction when someone asks me if I need is help is, "Nah, I got it." And for the most part I do got it. I am proud of the strong, courageous human that I have grown to be.
However, there's nothing like a devastating natural disaster to put all of your long held beliefs and reactions in to place and humble you right down to your core. It turns out that when my dogs are stuck in the attic of my flooding home and I am 1,395 miles away, or when said flooded home needs the floors and walls ripped out of it and I have no where to live, I do need help. I can do a lot of things on my own, but I can't do everything.
I had plenty of time while I was stuck at the airport trying desperately to get home to think about how weak and helpless I felt, but it didn't even matter. My dogs were being rescued out of my attic by some brave men and women with kayaks and inflatable rafts (that's them above, looking very grateful to not be in an attic). The walls and floors were ripped out of my home in less than 5 hours by a group of volunteers I barely knew, and my dear friends were gracious enough to open up their home to my husband and me, along with said dogs for as long as we needed. Even when I felt too weak to ask for help, my community was there to hold me up and make me stronger.
It's ok to ask for help. It's ok to accept help even when you don' or can'tt ask for it. It doesn't make you weak. If anything, it makes you stronger. We can do so little on our own, but together can do a n y t h i n g. Anything.
And I have to be honest. I love helping people when I see a need, but there's a part of me that cringes (or, used to, I hope) when someone asks me for help. "What's wrong with you that you can't do this thing yourself? Why aren't you strong enough to handle this on your own?" If this life-altering experience has taught me anything, it's that giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin, and you cannot graciously give with an open heart while casting judgement upon yourself for receiving, and vice versa.
If you'd like to give with an open heart, Revolution Studio has set a goal of raising $5,000 for The Greater Houston Community Foundation Hurricane Harvey Relief Fund. Call or walk in to any of their 3 locations to donate today. You can also see below for some exciting events coming up this weekend to raise money for the GHCF.
Tell me about your experience with learning how to give or receive with an open heart. I am constantly inspired by you and your journey, and I thank you for continuing to join me on mine.